Redundancy is one of the most difficult events we face. Similar to a separation or divorce, redundancy plunges the person and his/her family into crisis. It puts the family in a state of uncertainty, insecurity and stress. Redundancy can induce feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem and anxiety.
The natural reaction to redundancy is lack of acceptance of the new situation; a strong urge to try and turn back the wheel. Many are willing to bear and put up with a lot to get their old job back. Similarly, in a relationship, a person that has been walked out on will initially try to do anything in their power to make their partner return. Separation sheds new light on the relationship; all of a sudden the relationship seems more meaningful and precious. It takes a while to comprehend the fact that the relationship is over. At work too, one initially tries to undo what has already been done or perhaps find a new and exciting replacement quickly.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case and some may need to face a longer term of unemployment. The tough challenge in this case is coping with the new reality – without having a job to go to and managing all the spare time and the emptiness you may feel. Acclimatising to the new daily life is challenging and takes a while until you learn to enjoy the imposed freedom.
Being let go; suffering redundancy; experiencing downsizing are all very different ways of saying the same thing. Your employer doesn’t want you anymore. Suddenly, that place seems so much more attractive than it did yesterday – and you are going to fight tooth and nail to hang in there. But wait, maybe there’s something in you that relishes the chance to move on and do something different. For all those years when you didn’t quite fit. Where the role you had caused you some unease, there is something to learn. Is it not possible that you were something of a square peg, who over the years had done your best to fit into the round hole of your career?
So, think about the things you truly love, the types of way you want to spend your time and take the opportunity to move on as a sign. Time to look for an alternative future that better suits the person you really are. This can be a challenging time, yet if you see the possibilities and seize the moment, it can be one of the most thrilling phases of your life.